The Mustard Seed
A Case for Sexual Purity
Part 7 -- What if...
"What if God wants me to stay single for the rest of my life!?"
If we are willing to surrender our lives to God, we must do it without any reservation. Can we really expect God's blessing if we say, "Lord, you can have all of my life, except I want to keep control of this one part of my life; I will make the final decision"? Those of you who are single must indeed come to terms with the possibility that God may want you to serve Him as single and unmarried for the rest of your life. How do you handle that? The key is to be willing to will the will of God.
As a young single adult Christian, I desired to have a wife. But was that what God wanted for me? Just suppose... what if God's answer to my prayer was, "No, I don't want you to get married. My plan is for you to serve Me single for the rest of your days on earth." Could I accept that? One thing I wanted more than a wife was to be where God wanted me to be, doing what God wanted me to do. I knew I could never be happy or blessed trying to serve God while I was disobeying Him. So I asked God to help me to want what He wanted.
"Lord, if You know that I can serve You better and be happier married, then I trust You to bring into my life the woman of Your choosing, in Your time and in Your way. And I will thank you for that. But if You know that I can serve You better and be happier serving You single for the rest of my life, then I ask You to change my desires and give me complete contentment as a single in service to You. And I will thank you for that."
The Apostle Paul, who was single, made a strong case for single Christian service:
"A single man is concerned about the Lord’s matters. He wants to know how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the matters of this world. He wants to know how he can please his wife. His concerns pull him in two directions. A single woman or a virgin is concerned about the Lord’s matters. She wants to serve the Lord with both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the matters of this world. She wants to know how she can please her husband. I’m saying those things for your own good. I’m not trying to hold you back. I want you to be free to live in a way that is right. I want you to give yourselves completely to the Lord." (1 Corinthians 7:7, 32-37 NIRV)
As long as God did not give me contentment in the single life (even though I was willing to have contentment), I assumed that God had marriage in mind for my future. But the future wasn't here yet. So I understood that God had indeed called me to serve Him as a single person at that time of my life. And I understood from Paul's advice that as a single person I had far more time and freedom to serve Him than I could when I am married. I could hit the road for weeks at a time, traveling various places around the state where Deaf people met for fellowship. I understood that the day I got married, that week-long travel must stop. So I took full advantage of my singleness, finding my joy in serving Christ's people, and finding contentment in knowing that my future was in God's hands.
Another Scripture text which helped me find contentment as a single Christian came from the Song of Solomon, of all places. The Song of Solomon is a sensuous love poem describing the relationship between a husband and his wife. Embedded in that poem in three different places (2:7; 3:5; & 8:4) you will find this advice from the wife to her single girlfriends:
"Women of Jerusalem, take an oath and make me a promise...
Don’t stir up love. Don’t wake it up until it’s ready." (NIRV)
Don't bond your heart to anyone until the time and the person are right. And until that day, guard your mind; don't browse sexually explicit books and videos.
"I know the plans I have for you," announces the Lord. "I want you to enjoy success. I do not plan to harm you. I will give you hope for the years to come. Then you will call out to me. You will come and pray to me. And I will listen to you. When you look for me with all your heart, you will find me." (Jeremiah 29:11-14)
A great resource for Christian single adults is boundless.org.
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Pastor Ron Friedrich