The Mustard Seed
January 2015



A Case for Sexual Purity
Part 5 -- God's Guidance
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How can you know which one is the right one for your marriage partner?  How can you know if the time is right?  What are the "red flags" to alert you that your choice is not the right choice?  What are the "green lights" that indicate God's direction and blessing?
A few years ago in our campus ministry we studied principles of divine guidance -- how we should look to God for His leading in the decisions we make in life.  All of those principles apply to our dating relationships and the choice of our life-partner in marriage.  In summary, those principles are:
  • Specifically ask God for His guidance.
  • Be willing to will the will of God.
  • Obey Him in little decisions and daily choices.
  • What does the Bible say? -- God's Word is the first and final authority.
  • Seek the advice of mature godly Christians.
  • Circumstances.
  • Inner peace.
The least reliable of those principles are the last two.  Too often we interpret circumstances which tempt us to make foolish choices as God's leading, and we interpret our own sinful desires as the voice of the Holy Spirit.  It grieves me when I hear Christians claim that God led them into adultery.  However, God can use circumstances and the loss of inner peace to lead us out of relationships that are not God's best for us.  For example...
After I graduated from college, I was asked to develop teaching material about living as a single Christian.  I invited a young lady friend who had been my college classmate to help me on this project.  After we completed our project, we kept in touch and saw each other from time to time.  Each of us privately began asking the Lord to show us His will.  Was it His plan that we be partners for life?  No sooner had we both started thinking and praying this way, we found that every time we tried to get together, something messed up our plans.  Each of us took this as a sign from God that His answer to our prayer was "No."  So we let it go.  We never saw each other again until my friend came to celebrate my marriage to Georganne.  God also led her to a godly man and bless them with a wonderful family.
Does the Bible say anything specific about whom we should or should not marry?  Yes. 

"Do not be joined to unbelievers.  What do right and wrong have in common?  Can light and darkness be friends? How can Christ and Satan agree?  What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?"
(2 Corinthians 6:14-15 NIRV;  also see 1 Corinthians 7:39) 
God's design for marriage is unity. "... a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.  The two of them will become one." (Genesis 2:24 NIRV)  Your relationship with Christ is the most important thing in your life; it is your most precious treasure.  You cannot have true unity with the person you marry if your spouse does not share your faith.  The marriage relationship is a triangle formed by husband, wife, and God at the top.  As husband and wife each grow closer to God, they grow closer to each other.  A marriage partner who does not have fellowship with Christ is also not able to have true fellowship with you.
Don't date an unbeliever, because every person you date is a potential marriage partner.  If you know that you can't marry him, don't date him.  It's not fair to him or yourself.  He may be a nice person.  But if you cannot share the most important values in your life, you will never be able to experience true unity or true intimacy.
Ladies, if you are not sure if the guy who is asking you on a date is a Christian, invite him to church or Bible study.  Then afterward, discuss your faith.  Ask him to study Scripture with you.  If he acts like a fish out of water, or if he does not take initiative in leading in prayer, take the hint.  He's not the one for you.  Don't fool yourself into thinking that you will win an unbeliever to Christ by dating or marrying him/her.  Evangelism dating doesn't work.  And that shows very little respect for the other person.  Ladies, when you marry, you take your man as he is.

~~ Pastor Ron
(to be continued)

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