The Mustard Seed
A Case For Sexual PurityWhen Christians discuss purposes and principles of dating, one theme keeps surfacing. They say that the purpose of dating is to prepare us for marriage. We learn how to relate. We learn about ourselves and other people. We can see if a certain person is "the right one."
Part 3 -- Dating vs Courting
Several years ago twenty-one year old Josh Harris wrote a provocative book titled, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, in which he argued that our culture's popular dating practices prepare young people for divorce, not marriage. Whether couples date casually, go steady, or live together, relationships have a romantic connection that is designed to be broken. Every commitment has an escape clause. Dating and living together are more effective in teaching us how to break up than how to commit.
Marriage is suppose to be a commitment for life, but so many couples say their marriage vows without truly meaning it. If their vows were honest, they would say, "I promise to stay married to you only as long as I feel love for you. But if you hurt my feelings... bye bye!"
Our modern tradition of dating is a spin-off from courtship traditions of past generations. Courtship has a very clear focus and purpose: wooing and winning a future life-partner in marriage. Modern practices of dating focus more on the present -- feel good and have fun now. What's wrong with that? Plenty:
If you are single, see every person you date as a potential marriage partner. That's not an extreme idea. Romance has a way of sucking us in deeper than we plan to go. So if you see any red flags while you are still able to think clearly, it is much easier to say "No thank you" now than it will be later when you are both "twitterpated." (That's a word from Disney's Bambi.)
What are those "red flags" that can alert you to a potentially disastrous relationship? We will look at some of them in future installments.
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